R U OK? is close to your heart. What made you become an R U OK? ambassador?
It’s a simple concept that everyone has the capability of implementing into their day.
I had a really difficult year when I first became a national hockey player and my Mum took the time to ask that exact question.
I had felt anxious and down for quite some time and she was the first person who really delved a little deeper. It almost gave me ‘permission’ to share and reflect on how I was really feeling and ultimately get the support that I needed.
It was a conversation that changed my perspective and had a big impact on my life.
What have you learnt from being an R U OK? ambassador?
It’s easy to go through our days seeing people but not truly taking the time to have a meaningful conversation. It is often surprising to learn the stress and load they are carrying when you scratch below the surface.
R U OK? isn’t about solving someone’s problems, it’s about listening and showing care – which goes a long way in getting someone through their day.
What advice would you give your younger self, knowing what you know now?
I would say, “Learn to embrace and be comfortable with your strengths, and stop comparing yourself to others.”
I was really quick to be self-deprecating and rarely treated myself with the same care I would show others.
I think I would have been in a better place when first starting out as an athlete (working in a competitive environment) if I hadn’t linked my self -worth with my athletic performance, owned my strengths and learnt to appreciate the small wins.
What is something we can do to support people who might not be ok?
First of all, make sure you listen without judgement – giving someone permission and the ability to share is often the most important thing you can do for them.
Don’t try and solve the issue, but rather encourage them to take action. For example, “What can you do right now that might be enjoyable or relaxing?”, or “Who can we find, that might be able to assist you?”
And finally, check back in. Genuine care and concern can make a real difference.
